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Great Self Confidence Booster #1: Beat Shyness
There is nothing wrong with shyness, EXCEPT to the degree
that it keeps you from meeting the people you want to meet
or doing the things you want to do. Shyness can prevent you
from letting people see the real you, because you’re afraid to
say or do the wrong things or to appear awkward. The
problem is, by being shy and hanging back from the rest of
the crowd, you’re already decreasing your chances for
success - in friendships, business, and more.
Overcoming shyness doesn’t mean you have to start
dominating conversations or become an attention-getter.
Rather, start with baby steps. Introduce yourself to society by
opening yourself to people little by little. You can strike up
conversations with the people around you, your next-door
neighbor or the mothers you see at the local playground, for
instance. You can also start by talking to people in grocery
stores, restaurants, or anywhere you can find someone who
seems open to talking. Often, a brief conversation about the
weather can help you gain the comfort you need to converse
about more important topics. You can establish
relationships with people on the Internet, such as in the
Moms Forum at HoustonSAHM.com. With the Internet being
a medium for anonymity, you can actually start your foray out
of shyness from there.
There is nothing wrong with shyness, EXCEPT to the degree
that it keeps you from meeting the people you want to meet
or doing the things you want to do. Shyness can prevent you
from letting people see the real you, because you’re afraid to
say or do the wrong things or to appear awkward. The
problem is, by being shy and hanging back from the rest of
the crowd, you’re already decreasing your chances for
success - in friendships, business, and more.
Overcoming shyness doesn’t mean you have to start
dominating conversations or become an attention-getter.
Rather, start with baby steps. Introduce yourself to society by
opening yourself to people little by little. You can strike up
conversations with the people around you, your next-door
neighbor or the mothers you see at the local playground, for
instance. You can also start by talking to people in grocery
stores, restaurants, or anywhere you can find someone who
seems open to talking. Often, a brief conversation about the
weather can help you gain the comfort you need to converse
about more important topics. You can establish
relationships with people on the Internet, such as in the
Moms Forum at HoustonSAHM.com. With the Internet being
a medium for anonymity, you can actually start your foray out
of shyness from there.
Great Self Confidence Booster #2: Resolve to Accept Yourself for You
A healthy self-esteem comes from an unconditional acceptance of yourself. Start loving
yourself for who you are, and be kind to yourself.
Instead of picking out your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. Instead of going through the
daily cycle of beating yourself up, set a routine where you tell yourself ten things you like about
yourself. Instead of being your own worst enemy, try becoming your own best friend. When
someone throws you a compliment, don't make a quick negative comeback ("yeah right").
Simply smile, say "thank you", and believe it!
You can practice appreciating yourself by taking more time for self pampering, personal
hobbies, and relaxing. Yes, you do deserve it! As you cultivate your love for yourself, you
gradually wean yourself from your addiction to approval by others. Start putting stock into your
own opinion, believing that your ideas on parenting, religion, politics, whatever, are just as
good as the next person's. As the late Emerson wrote, "To believe your own thought, to believe
that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, — that is genius."
Great Self Confidence Booster #3: Dress for Success
Admit it. People make their conclusions based on what they see. When they see a slob, they
tend to stay away or write you off as not worth knowing. But when they see a polished,
excellent look (even if you are a stay-at-home mom, this look can be achieved), they see
success scrolling on a marquee on top of your head. When you look like you can take care of
yourself, you send the message that you love yourself, you are confident, and you have an
opinion that matters. More importantly than what others think though, when you look good, you
know it, and it makes you feel confident on the inside.
Great Self Confidence Booster #4: Get Out There and Just Do It
Fear of failure is a big factor in the crumbling of self-confidence, and this same fear is caused
by our insistence on focusing on the negative side of things. True, it’s never a bad thing to be
cautious whenever we’re thinking of new ventures, adventures, and activities, but too much
caution will paralyze us, making us unable to take action.
So why not start thinking positively? Think hard about what you want to do. Join activities that
may enhance your leadership and teamwork skills. If you stumble over any doubts or
problems, don’t immediately say, “I can’t do it.” Just imagine ways that will help you work
around those problems.
Don’t second-guess your plans. Trust in your abilities and the fact that you can bounce back
from any situation. An even bigger plus for you is when you actually follow your dreams and
achieve your goals, which will make you feel confident that you can do anything.
Learning how to have great self-confidence is simple and easy. Accept yourself the way you
are. Take care of yourself and acknowledge the fact that you are a very special person of great
talent and ability. You can if you think you can.
A healthy self-esteem comes from an unconditional acceptance of yourself. Start loving
yourself for who you are, and be kind to yourself.
Instead of picking out your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. Instead of going through the
daily cycle of beating yourself up, set a routine where you tell yourself ten things you like about
yourself. Instead of being your own worst enemy, try becoming your own best friend. When
someone throws you a compliment, don't make a quick negative comeback ("yeah right").
Simply smile, say "thank you", and believe it!
You can practice appreciating yourself by taking more time for self pampering, personal
hobbies, and relaxing. Yes, you do deserve it! As you cultivate your love for yourself, you
gradually wean yourself from your addiction to approval by others. Start putting stock into your
own opinion, believing that your ideas on parenting, religion, politics, whatever, are just as
good as the next person's. As the late Emerson wrote, "To believe your own thought, to believe
that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, — that is genius."
Great Self Confidence Booster #3: Dress for Success
Admit it. People make their conclusions based on what they see. When they see a slob, they
tend to stay away or write you off as not worth knowing. But when they see a polished,
excellent look (even if you are a stay-at-home mom, this look can be achieved), they see
success scrolling on a marquee on top of your head. When you look like you can take care of
yourself, you send the message that you love yourself, you are confident, and you have an
opinion that matters. More importantly than what others think though, when you look good, you
know it, and it makes you feel confident on the inside.
Great Self Confidence Booster #4: Get Out There and Just Do It
Fear of failure is a big factor in the crumbling of self-confidence, and this same fear is caused
by our insistence on focusing on the negative side of things. True, it’s never a bad thing to be
cautious whenever we’re thinking of new ventures, adventures, and activities, but too much
caution will paralyze us, making us unable to take action.
So why not start thinking positively? Think hard about what you want to do. Join activities that
may enhance your leadership and teamwork skills. If you stumble over any doubts or
problems, don’t immediately say, “I can’t do it.” Just imagine ways that will help you work
around those problems.
Don’t second-guess your plans. Trust in your abilities and the fact that you can bounce back
from any situation. An even bigger plus for you is when you actually follow your dreams and
achieve your goals, which will make you feel confident that you can do anything.
Learning how to have great self-confidence is simple and easy. Accept yourself the way you
are. Take care of yourself and acknowledge the fact that you are a very special person of great
talent and ability. You can if you think you can.
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